There is a fallacy in believing that our “soul mate” is always a happy ending. Well, it ain’t necessarily so! [Note to readers: check out Cher’s version of the song, “It Ain’t Necessarily So” with Lou Adler… she’s/he’s magnificent.] I’ve read various views regarding past life karma. Some psychics/healers believe that every relationship has past life ties. Others believe some relationships are past life connected, but not all. Some psychics avoid delving into the topic. What I found to be true and which emanated from my experiences into a bright “AHA!” moment is that past life karmic relationships do exist and many carry a heavy burden of emotions that traverse time. They can be exhausting and exhilarating. They can be passionate and cold. They can feel freeing and claustrophobic. The triggers seem to be more frequent and intense because we’ve been down this road before.

Obviously, my husband and I have a strong past life karmic connection. Over the years, I’ve been told by a few different psychics that, in this lifetime, I’m assuming the male energy and he’s assuming the female energy. As do many men, he’s struggling a lot with confronting and accepting his own female energy. My “manly man,” as I teasingly call him sometimes, epitomizes the chivalrous heroic “white knight in shining armor.” Obviously, for ole’ Tricia NoCapecia, I bristle at the thought of a helpless hapless maiden persona. Isn’t it fascinating how some people read the cues (I’m a feminist.), know the drill (Don’t treat me as if I’m helpless.), and admire the Sag-Leo-Scorpio fire and still want to extinguish it (Let me do it, he says, you don’t know how to do it.)?

I won’t go into the doldrums of conflicts, as we definitely don’t need more tales of woe in our collective lives. What I want to share is how I cut our karmic ties to keep our relationship intact, a practice that can be utilized for any karmic relationship that is suffering. This story of awareness began when I had an unfortunate but very insightful reiki session. During the session, I became engulfed by green droplets of light falling over and around me. I knew it was Angel Raphael and he was protecting me from something but couldn’t imagine what. I mentioned it afterwards. Then when she mentioned some blockages she’d felt, I said that I had been concerned about prophecies of endings that lie ahead. She grimaced at me. I was taken aback but thought I was misreading her expression. Nope. I was right. She told me I should shut down my third eye. My first thought was, “Is that possible?!” This advice felt wrong to my core. Sometime afterwards, I consulted a wonderful psychic I’ve known for several years and she said that we are able to shut down our intuitive third eye but it’d be highly detrimental and create havoc and chaos, especially because of our past life experiences. Honestly, I didn’t ask for proof but could have because I trust implicitly her experience and knowledge. And, what I was learning resonated with my subconscious knowing. In other words, I trusted my own intuition to know if this information was valid. I then asked, “Is it possible to cut a karmic tie with someone?” She replied, “Yes, of course!” Obviously my next question was, “How?!,” and the succinct answer was “You can just say it and believe it,” which is what I did.

Fast forward to a Mediumship course I attended and the subject of karmic past life cutting was broached. A fellow attendee mentioned that she’s utilized this practice and it’s saved a few relationships from fracturing permanently. Goes like this… Imagine you’re surrounded by a globe of light and from this globe, hundreds of thin pink ribbons connect to the globe of light that surrounds the other person. Now, simply envision taking a scissors and cutting all around your globe which, in turn, releases the other person also to experience their karmic destiny of this lifetime without struggling with the emotional burden of what’s already past in your prior connection. Because you’re both shrouded in light, you’re intention is loving and protective. The idea is to be released from this old baggage and allow each of you to live more freely, more lovingly, and more joyfully.

Three days later, my relationship with my husband shifted. The undercurrent of tension dissipated. The connection of our shared life was renewed with more calm and more comfort. It was a gift. I’ll admit I did this practice a few times afterwards… just in case!… then chose to have faith in my ability to enact positive change in my life. I gained a new confidence which also redefines how he sees me. The ribbons of emotions were severed. Now, we can comfort each other without the old triggers. I just let out a sigh after re-reading this paragraph because the relief is real.

I am so excited for summer even though we live in a popular summer destination. Last year’s summer was fraught with too much quiet and inaction in our relationship. The pandemic after-effects didn’t help nor the fact that my husband has to be careful still with new strains and viruses surfacing. But this year, we look forward to a quieter June beach time before the July and August crowds arrive. Hopefully, a lot of September will be warm and sunny. In the meantime, we’ll hit the beaches and search for more lost buoys in the dunes.

Speaking of hope, I’ve arrived happily at the epiphany that we are capable of being psychic and hopeful simultaneously. Some people believe that being psychic creates a regular doom and gloom dynamic. [Learning how to protect our energy and third eye is a vital lesson and one I’ll address in another blog.] I don’t have intel 24/7 and sometimes am blindsided by sudden upsets because I’m not a Magic 8 Ball. When shocks occur, I utilize my gifts and call on myself and my guides for answers to whatever questions are slapping me upside the head… metaphorically. If we can turn inward and trust that we are loved, protected, and not alone and that we’re worthy of joy, then we can be provided the insight and answers we seek. We can regroup and realign ourselves to enact the best possible outcome even under dire circumstances. Sometimes, the outcome is a bitter pill to swallow but it places us on our karmic path toward empowerment. Being the calm within the storm is a powerful stance. We really do come home to ourselves and learn how calmly to say “yes” or “no” to what aligns with our best selves. See you next time 😉